True love looks beyond just numbers, right? Canadian influencer Alicia Mccarvell proves that with her life, but at the same time, the public has a hard time accepting her relationship that always looked so ideally wholesome and perfect, regardless of one’s appearance.
All because the plus-size body positivity advocate and social media star was dating a hunk people think we’re “gay.”
Alicia is married to the love of her life and she has zero doubt that her husband feels the same for her. Knowing the power her platform has, she’s always been preaching the lesson of “self-love” and never devaluing yourself because of unrealistic beauty standards.
But when one of her videos went viral with over 24.1 million views on TikTok, she decided to address the negative comments that bombarded the comment section. She said, “My video went viral, and I know we all know why. It’s because by beauty standards, we don’t make sense.”
“The world looks at us and immediately values Scott more than me. They say things like, ‘Oh, she must not have been fat when they met,’ or ‘Oh, she’s got to be rich.’”
Or sometimes, they try to blame the man and Alicia said, “Or they try to decrease his side of the equation by saying he must be gay, or he fetishes fat women.”
And she knows that this is such a common prejudice people own because of how intrinsic the beauty standards are. She spoke, “We’ve been made to believe that somebody who is physically fit like Scott could never in a million years be in love with or compatible with a fat woman.”
“And that’s solely because the world has taught us that we have to value our worth [based] on our bodies.”
She even recalled when people would directly disrespect her by sending DMs to Scott how she wasn’t worth it. One of them “was thin and by beauty standards a 10 out of 10” who told Scott his wife should be someone like her, not Alicia.
“Here’s the thing, though, me telling myself the majority of our relationship that I’m not worthy of his love because of my body is the exact same thing as this thin woman telling him that she is worthy because of her body.”
“I’m undervaluing myself and she is overvaluing herself. We have both been made to believe that our value lies in our body,” she continued. “If this is the way you think, it’s the way you’ve been taught. However, it is your responsibility to unlearn it.”